Saturday, May 10, 2014
Is hypocrisy necessarily wrong?
Hypocrisy. Isn't it something that we all know? Something that we all use indefinitely? But still, we're ashamed of that aspect of our personality. And I wonder why we feel that shameful for something that is so very common. There are, of course, many types of hypocrisy, some worse than others, but I think that hypocrisy isn't a very bad trait. I mean, it isn't good. I always feel bad when I say things that are untrue, or just somewhat true. But I think that if you leave out the moral aspect of it, and consider for a second its role in society, I think that it is somehow needed and expected. I believe that from the moment you live in a community, you're expected to act, react, speak, etc. in a certain way. For example, in a couple, how many times doesn't someone ask his/her partner if he/she thinks he/she is too fat, ugly, smart, a good person, and so on and so forth. Isn't this person expecting a non-honest answer from you, at least unconsciously? Of course he/she is! When you ask someone these kind of questions, what you want is to be reassured, and you make it clear to the listener that that's what you're looking for, so, basically, what you're doing is asking the other to answer in a certain way no matter what. And so again, I wonder, who really is the hypocrite in such a situation? The utterer, or the the listener?
But then, if people living in a closed circle of family and friends feel that way, and expect other people to answer or react in a certain way, then imagine how people would feel about celebrities. Imagine all the things that we want people who represent us to be like. Imagine how we expect people that we admire to be like. And thus imagine the consequences of these expectations on the celebrity, be it a singer, a writer, a politician, or an academic. How can he/she react to our wishes? Since he/she relies on us liking him/her, he/she's forced to say or do things that might not be his own choices. And we love him/her even more than before, because he/she responded to what we asked of him/her. But one day, the big news come in, he/she lied, or cheated on someone, or did or said something wrong. We feel outraged! Maybe even hurt! How could he/she! He/she is a liar, he said or did this or that, etc. Well, to what extent didn't we force him/her into those acts? To what extent aren't we the hypocrites in these kind of stories, to expect things of people who, even though known to many people, are still just normal people, with assets and flaws, and not even giving them a chance. I mean, at the very best, we forgive them for what they did because they're just human, but who are we to forgive them? Who are we to judge them? Aren't we all doing the same things? Then why is it that we always expect more of others than we do of ourselves. How is it that when it comes to us, hypocrisy doesn't seem that bad after all, since we're not entirely lying, we're just embellishing a little the truth, isn't it? It never did anyone any harm, did it? Isn't that how we forgive ourselves? Then, isn't it time we start accepting our own hypocrisy? Even as a flaw, since it isn't our greatest aspect... Isn't it time we start accepting others hypocrisy too?
Here is an article explaining everything about hypocrisy. What it means, the types of hypocrites that exist, etc.
Here is a great article about how we use hypocrisy to reduce the gap between what we believe we should do, and what we actually do, especially in the case of procrastination:
Have a great day, and keep your mind sharp!