Friday, August 8, 2014
The Gifts of Imperfection
A couple of weeks ago, I wrote an article about Brené Brown, an incredible woman who made a speech at TedTalk that completely blew my mind. Well, amongst all the things that she does, she is also an author, of both books and research papers. I read one of her books, The Gifts of Imperfection, to see if she wrote the same way that she spoke, half-excited, half-fearful that it would be another one of those positive thinking books. Not that I don't like some of them, I really like the ones that make you think, but oh so not the ones who chit-chat about how life is beautiful and then in the end give you a sort of to-do list of how to make your life as perfect as can be. Anyway, this one could be defined as a positive thinking book, but definitely an intelligent one! One that doesn't talk about your perfect life, in a perfect mind and a perfect body etc.
This book is about all our flaws, and all our good sides, not as good and bad sides, but as parts of ourselves. But even though it tackles with many parts of ourselves that we're not so keen to accept, this book makes you at ease thanks to all the (not that pretty) personal stories of the author. She makes everything seem so normal. Our worst secrets actually seem quite ridiculous after reading The Gifts of Imperfections. Even though there are many themes Brené Brown deals with in the book, I'm only (for now) going to share with you the part that I preferred, which is what she calls the "guideposts". These guideposts make for the major part of the book, but only start after 50 pages of gross introduction to the themes, tone, aim, etc. of her work. There are ten of them, each of them having two titles each. One starting with "Cultivating..." and its second title beginning with "Letting go of...". You get the point. Instead of the usual rambling about nonsense, she names all the things we fear, then analyzes them, and gives us a few examples of her own experience.
But only once we've got it all in mind, when we know how to differentiate each emotion/feeling/sensation we have, she explains how most of the things we feel, even when they're not pleasant, have some positive purpose. She then puts things in perspective for us by showing how difficult it is to see things that way, to understand that we are who we are, and that we can't change ourselves, by, again, enlightening us with her own experience at the time of this discovery. It is all a mix of many feelings, both funny, and sad at times, and then generally quite positive thanks to her natural tone of laughter. I liked it so much that I'm thinking of making a series out of the chapters she wrote, but we'll see! Anyway, I highly encourage you to read it! But I also recommend that you go check out the other article I told you about, on Brené Brown herself, where you will find links to her TedTalks, and to her blog, etc. : http://thepowerofreality.blogspot.com/2014/04/brene-brown.html
Have a great day, and keep your mind sharp!